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Hell and the devil
For centuries, especially during the Middle Ages, the Church was forever striking fear into Christians about the punishments of hell. They claimed they were doing so in order to save souls, but in reality this approach also resulted in a great deal of damage. You might even say that souls almost became shelters for the devil, for people thought so much about him they forgot about God. Think of all the pictures they painted of the devil! He was drawn, sculpted and painted, and preachers made excessive use of him in their sermons or their writings. He was used in the same way children are threatened with the policeman, the wolf or the bogeyman to keep them quiet.
But, even in our day and age, there are still people who use religion in this way, aren’t there? It is very bad from an educational point of view. Contrary to what they claim, those who act in this way are not so concerned about the good of souls; they are mostly seeking to exercise power over them. And if they are sincere, it is not much better – it means they are ill."
No eternal damnation
"Why, for centuries, has the Church relentlessly frightened Christians by threatening them with eternal damnation? This is a false belief. The reality is that there is no eternal damnation for humans. All that can happen and even this is very rare is that when a person revels in evil and intentionally continues to work against Gods plans and against the light, they become so loaded down and so dark that finally their human soul separates from their divine soul. The divine soul, in the form of a spark, leaves them and returns to the ocean of original light, and then, deprived of this spark, the human soul disintegrates and disappears.
These cases, I repeat, occur very rarely. Whatever sins and transgressions are committed, the human soul is always given the possibility of recognizing its faults and purifying itself, thanks to the divine soul, which is linked to it and seeks to take it towards the light."
Death does not exist
"In a way, death does not exist; it is contained within life; it is simply a change of level, a change of clothing, to take us forward in our understanding of life.
With every new role, actors change costume as well as partners, and this new part teaches them something more about themselves and about others. Well, with us it is the same: we cannot keep playing the same part forever, and after a time we must leave the worlds stage. We call this stage exit death, but actually there is only uninterrupted life. The actor is still alive after the show. We have to become accustomed to seeing existence as a continuum. Humans have a bad habit of drawing boundaries everywhere: between the spiritual and the material, between waking and sleeping, between life and death. No, existence is all one."
Omraam Mikhaël Aivanhov
The Companionship of the Dead
As we grow older we have more and more people to remember, people who have died before us. It is very important to remember those who have loved us and those we have loved. Remembering them means letting their spirits inspire us in our daily lives. They can become part of our spiritual communities and gently help us as we make decisions on our journeys. Parents, spouses, children, and friends can become true spiritual companions after they have died. Sometimes they can become even more intimate to us after death than when they were with us in life.
Remembering the dead is choosing their ongoing companionship.
Remembering the Dead
When we lose a dear friend, someone we have loved deeply, we are left with a grief that can paralyse us emotionally for a long time. People we love become part of us. Our thinking, feeling and acting are codetermined by them: Our fathers, our mothers, our husbands, our wives, our lovers, our children, our friends ... they are all living in our hearts. When they die a part of us has to die too. That is what grief is about: It is that slow and painful departure of someone who has become an intimate part of us. When Christmas, the new year, a birthday or anniversary comes, we feel deeply the absence of our beloved companion. We sometimes have to live at least a whole year before our hearts have fully said good-bye and the pain of our grief recedes. But as we let go of them they become part of our "members" and as we "re-member" them, they become our guides on our spiritual journey.
Taking the Sting Out of Death
Dying is returning home. But even though we have been told this many times by many people, we seldom desire to return home. We prefer to stay where we are. We know what we have; we do not know what we will get. Even the most appealing images of the afterlife cannot take away the fear of dying. We cling to life, even when our relationships are difficult, our economic circumstances harsh, and our health quite poor.
Still, Jesus came to take the sting out of death and to help us gradually realise that we don't have to be afraid of death, since death leads us to the place where the deepest desires of our hearts will be satisfied. It is not easy for us to truly believe that, but every little gesture of trust will bring us closer to this truth.
Henri J.M. Nouwen